Thursday, July 12, 2018

Blue Light; Sleep, Caner, and Sports Performance



Sleep: there aren’t enough hours in the day for this insignificant phenomenon that many bypass to get one last job done before the end of the day.  Some claim that sleep isn’t necessary for success, but do we have it wrong?  Are we missing out on opportunities to become successful or has the influx of social media via the technological advances made sleep a thing of the past?  How many have stayed up late at night just to scroll the news feed of your favorite social media platform to catch up on irrelevant news content that floods our brains?  Lets not forget your favorite television series that you must stay up for otherwise you might die if you have to wait until the next evening to see if your favorite male character proposes to his crush, right?
Many may raise the question of, “why is it important to sleep?”  According to the Division of Sleep Medicine at Harvard Medical School, truly understanding sleep is still a process that many scientists are continually researching to better understanding.1  Research has also found that sleep is an important process for not only repairing and rejuvenating the brain, but also for the development and plasticity of the human brain.  So why is sleep an overlooked aspect of overall health and sport performance? In the paragraphs to come, I hope to shed some light on some of the research done regarding blue light and sleep.  We will be looking at what has caused some of the issues with improper sleep hygiene, negative health implications it can pose, how it can be a hindrance to athletic performance, and helpful suggestions that may improve sleep for those who find it near impossible getting quality sleep.
Blue Light
I am sure that many have become accustomed to nightly routines of watching popular television shows, chatting with friends on small handheld devices, and staying up during the late hours to finish work.  Seems fairly senseless, right?  What many of us don’t know is how these small bedtime routines have actually altered our quality of sleep and life.  As we stay awake at night looking at the screens of these devices, our eyes are exposed to what is called blue light, or artificial lighting.  The artificial lighting that comes from many electronic devices affects the human circadian rhythm, which is the body’s natural wake and sleep cycle.2  Why is this significant?  Many studies have been published that continue to find the correlation of increased blue light exposure with the loss of sleep.  Although we get natural blue light from the sun, the amount of time many people look at screens that give off artificial lighting is alarming.  Just think about the number of kids and adults you see during dinner at your local restaurant or watching kids interact after school.  From personal observation, most are interacting in different ways that don’t involve verbal communication, but rather, communicating with the tips of their thumbs.  Moreover, technology and exposure to blue light causes disturbances of the central nervous system, which will put off the production of melatonin (sleep hormone) for up to 90 minutes making falling asleep more difficult.3
The body has a unique way of operating to ensure that many of the processes are functioning properly.  The pineal gland, a small region in the brain that is sensitive to lighting picked up through the eyes, and the suprachiasmatic nucleus, which controls the body’s circadian rhythm, are just two areas that blue light greatly affects.  To show how sensitive the brain is to blue light, think of it this way: you finally made it to bed after a long week with the hopes of getting the best sleep you’ve gotten in weeks; two hours go by and you need to empty your bladder because you’ve consumed water before going to sleep; upon entering the bathroom, you turn the lights on and the bright light shocks you like the New England Patriots Winning the 2017 Super Bowl in overtime; you then walk back to your room like a zombie, get into bed, and bam: you can’t fall asleep.  I am sure this has happened to many of you.  Light, especially at night, may be the cause of your sleepless nights.  As I mentioned above about the pineal gland being sensitive to light, it then signals the body to stop the production of melatonin because it believes it is light outside as a consequence of the late night light exposure.  Melatonin production is decreased, which then causes you to feel awake at three in the morning.
Health Implications of Blue Light
Technology is the now and it is our future, which is apparent amongst the millions of active users on a daily basis.  It is inside classrooms for educational purposes, how we do business, and how many communicate.  But is all of this good for humans?  Over the years more and more research is diving into this topic.  Whether you are a researcher or an observant citizen, you can see how technology has affected humans: good and bad.  Although these technological advances have many good applications in everyday life, there are many dangers that come with it.
Many people in developed countries have become accustomed to different forms of technology, but over the years an increased number of people are suffering from insomnia, obesity, seasonal affective disorder (seasonal depression), and cancer.   Going back to an earlier question: Is all this technology safe for humans?   A recent study conducted by the Breast Cancer Organization concluded that, Women who work at night -- factory workers, doctors, nurses, and police officers, for example -- have a higher risk of breast cancer compared to women who work during the day.  Other research suggests that women who live in areas with high levels of external light at night (street lights, for example) have a higher risk of breast cancer."4   Many may raise the question of, how does shift workers or residing in areas that have higher levels of external light have an impact on human health?  If you remember from earlier how I mentioned what blue light is and how it affects the body's ability to produce melatonin, it begins to make more sense.  These artificial lights that many are exposed to, especially night shift workers, have an internal battle with their body's natural sense of time and sleep.  This then causes the suppression of melatonin, which many researchers, including physicist Dr. Edward Carome, believe this is the beginning to many health complications. Dr. Carome has discovered that melatonin production at night is important because it acts as a “strong cancer fighting antioxidant.” Additionally, blind men have a decreased risk of prostate cancer than those that can see, and blind women have a decreased risk of breast cancer than those that can see.  The reason for this is because the blind are maximally producing melatonin compared to people that can see who do not maximally produce melatonin.5
Moreover, a study (of many) conducted by Professor David Blask Ph.D, M.D. of Tulane University, experimented with blood samples from cancer patients at different times of the day to monitor melatonin levels.  What Dr. Blask found was “exposure of human subject to bright light at night suppresses the nocturnal circadian melatonin signal resulting in high, daytime-like rates of tumor metabolism and grown."6  This is furthering evidence of what has been found by many researchers.  From the number of studies, one could make a safe assumption that melatonin production and sleep are important necessities for health and well-being.
Sports Performance
As a former high school and collegiate athlete, working out, eating healthy (what I thought was healthy), and practices played a major role in everyday life. During my athletic career, there were only a few times sleep was a topic of discussion (Yes, there is a good chance that I was zoned out like a squirrel in a tree on a warm spring morning and missed these conversations, but that’s besides the point).  Like many, the small things are often viewed as insignificant and if it can’t be measured in a weight room, well, it really isn’t important.  A significant portion of increased athletic performance and adaptations come from the sleep we get in the days and weeks leading up to practices and competitions3. Also, the body needs the proper amount of sleep for natural responses to occur such as the natural release of the human growth hormone (HGH), muscle repair/gains, and maintenance.  In a study published by the National Strength and Conditioning Association athletes require a greater quantity of sleep to recover sufficiently from injury, intense training periods, and competition .8 “Training is just a small part of getting bigger, faster, and stronger.  Some of the most important responses/adaptations happen during sleep."3
Assuming that most of us have gone through a night or two where sleep was nearly impossible, think back on how you felt the next day.  Maybe you felt sluggish or moody, had increased junk food cravings, or felt a decrease in your thought process.  These examples sometimes become more apparent with athletes that have had a rough night of sleep.  Many great coaches are able to sense this without any high-end technology by reading body language. Sometimes our eyes are the best tools to assess when athletes have had a good or bad night of sleep.  According to John Underwood’s study on sleep and athletic performance, sleep loss can result in an eleven percent reduction in time to exhaustion during exercise.  Additionally, “when exhausted, blood flow to the brain decreases.  Blood flow is required for pre-movement and balance. When the brain doesn’t work, the body doesn’t work."3 This is no coincidence given that our brain is the control center for many of the functions that take place in our bodies. Sleep is a must; it can be the difference between a great performance and mediocre performance.
Moreover, because the education of sleep hygiene is sometimes forgotten, many athletes look for different alternatives to offset sleep debt.  Some athletes have resorted to various supplements to help increase energy, with energy drinks being one of the most popular.  Side note: if you are someone who depends on energy drinks to get through the day or to get you “amped” for your gym session, this is a problem.  In most cases, if a sound nutritional and sleep routine is followed, this should give one optimal levels of energy.  Caffeine supplementation is a widely talk about topic within the sports performance field, but athletes sometimes become dependent.  A study was conducted with a group of Navy Seals, which yielded positive results to mental and physical performance when consuming caffeine.  It is important for athletes and coaches to understand that the stimulation of the central nervous system can sometimes put an athlete at an over-aroused state, which can lead to declined performances.3  Although adult athletes have shown positive effects from caffeine, parents have been advised to prohibit young athletes under eighteen the consumption of energy drinks.  A study published by the United States of America Football Organization, warns about increased anxiety and arrhythmias as a result of children who take caffeinated energy drinks.  In addition, the same study found that individuals who ingest caffeinated energy drinks more often suffer more mistakes because of over-arousal, an increased heart rate, increased blood pressure, and a disrupted sleep cycle.9
We often forget the importance of good brain health.  The brain accounts for many functions within the body, but often the last to get attention when training. Although caffeine has been shown to increase mental and physical performance, athletes and coaches must understand the importance of getting proper sleep and naturally nourishing the brain instead of depending on stimulants to overcome sleep deficits and to increase performance.  I am not saying that caffeine is bad.  Research has found advanced athletes benefiting from caffeine.  However, what I am saying is that young athletes should not be turning to these types of supplements/stimulants to offset sleep debt or a bad nutritional diet.  There are many natural ways to increase energy that can be more beneficial than teaching youth athletes that they can get a quick and easy fix to mask a bad diet through beverages or supplementation.
How to improve sleep quality
Many alternatives exist when trying to implement consistency with sleeping patterns.  One of the most popular choices amongst many Americans comes in the form of medication: synthetic melatonin. Although the synthetic form of melatonin does help some with sleep, many become dependent, which affects the human body’s natural ability to produce melatonin.  The Sleep Foundation advises those that choose to consume synthetic melatonin to be cautious because it is not regulated by the Food and Drug Administration. “For melatonin to be helpful, the correct dosage, method, and time of day it is taken must be appropriate to the sleep problems.10 Like many over the counter supplements, it is important to do a little homework before purchasing.
If melatonin supplementation is not a good solution, then what is the best or next alternative?  Consistent sleep patterns have been shown to help with sleep hygiene.  A structured schedule that consistently has one going to sleep at the same time and waking up at the right time can help with those that suffer from insomnia or other sleeping disruptions.  In addition, there are many applications one can download, such as The Calm App, which provides guided meditation and breathing techniques.  This is something I have tried and saw great results with. Furthermore, stretching before bed has been a beneficial and calming practice I have implemented to increase sleep.  Both have benefited me in my own search for better sleep, but decreasing blue light has been the best choice for increasing sleep.
Here are a few sleep suggestions that the Harvard Medical School Heath News Letter suggests 11:
-Avoid looking at bright screens beginning two to three hours before bed.
-Expose yourself to lots of natural bright light during the day, which will boost your ability to sleep at night, as well as your mood and alertness during daylight.
-Use dim red lights for night-lights. Red light has the least power to shift circadian rhythm and suppress melatonin.
Here is a list from research articles on the effects of sleep deprivation
Those who consistently use energy drinks are 1.8 times more likely to report morning sleepiness than those who do not use energy drinks.3
Artificial lighting could be making us frail, withering muscles and making bones more fragile.12
Lack of sleep impairs information retrieval, or the ability to access learned information.3
Students who pull all-nighters: 2.95 GPA, Students who don’t pull all nighters: 3.20 GPA.3
Athletes build up sleep reserves or deficits over1-3 days.3
Sleep deprivation leads to disruption of training intensity and performance at competition.13
A growing body of evidence suggests that a desynchronization of circadian rhythms may play a role in various tumoral diseases, diabetes, obesity, and depression.14
I’m pretty sure that at least many of the sleep disorders we are facing epidemically are related to evening or nighttime light.14
Sleep-related problems affect 50–70 million U.S. men and women of all ages.14
Disrupting this circadian rhythm has also been linked to medical issues like depression, obesity, breast and prostate cancer, and cardiovascular disease. It’s even associated with sleep disorders like insomnia and delayed phase sleep disorder, possibly because it causes the suppression of melatonin, a sleep-inducing hormone.15
Eve Van Cauter, PhD, who termed sleep deprivation "the royal route to obesity."16
“Continued sleep shortages contribute to depression, heart disease, lowered immunity, obesity, and type 2 diabetes, among other illnesses."17
Brining it all together:
Over time, blue light has been shown to affect not only sleeping patterns, but also the formation of cancer cells.  Blue light also increases the likelihood of depression, obesity, and seasonal affective disorder – just to name a few.  This is a growing topic within health fields and sports performance, but we must continue to do our homework to get a better understanding of our less than optimal sleep patterns.  For years I have often wondered and grew curious to some of the changes that I have gone through (eating patterns, mood, decreased motivation), and it was not until I started taking a deeper look into sleep and its effects that I began to get a better understanding of the importance of this amazing phenomenon.  Being an athlete and working with many athletes, I often question whether us coaches are giving today’s youth the best information to not only positively impact their athletic careers, but to also impact their lives after sports.  Obesity, depression, and sports injuries are continually growing and some of the same information continues to be regurgitated in different ways, (better training models, nutrition, and the list goes on), but I often find sleep a topic that many coaches briefly talk about. Although there is much more to learn on this topic (and I have only hit the surface), with my findings I hope to help many become more aware of the importance of understanding blue light and how it can hinder our sleep patterns.  Technology is increasing and this may be the devil’s recipe for some of the health issues many of us face when dealing with sleep. Sleep is like water, you need it to function and survive.  Don’t let the quality of your life decrease because of your sleep hygiene.
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Kendrique Coats is the owner of Coats Performance, which provides speed and agility training in Frisco, Texas and surrounding areas. Over the years, Coats has spent most of his coaching time on the high school level coaching boys and girls track and field as well as overseeing strength and conditioning programs, which included stops at Pontiac Township High School in Illinois and Bloomington-Normal, Illinois. Now the head track and field coach at Dallas International School in Dallas, Texas, Coats looks to bring many of his training and coaching philosophies to the new program. Coats has written several articles including “Why I Stopped Yelling and Started Coachingalong with Early Sports Specialization. For more on Coach Coats and his work, be sure to follow on Twitter @kendriquecoats, Instagram @CoatsPerformance, and his website www.coatsperformance.com. You can also connect with Coach Coats via email at kcoats@coatsperformance.com

Sources
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3) Underwood, John. “Technology and Sleep.”Sleep and Recovery. Life of an Athlete, n.d. Web. 26 Mar. 2017
4) "Light Exposure at Night." Breastcancer.org. N.p., n.d. Web. 01 Apr. 2017.
5) Carome, Dr. Edward. "Is Blue Light the New Smoking." Interview by Daniel Vitalis. Audio blog post. Rewild Yourself. N.p., 1 Sept. 2015. Web. 1 Apr. 2017.
6) Blask, Dr. David E. "Research Interests." Structural & Cellular Biology. Tulane University- School of Medince, n.d. Web. 1 Apr. 2017.
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Issues With Youth Athletics

“Jimmy get ready, we have four games to play this afternoon!”
“But dad, I just….”
“What did I say,  Jimmy?!  The team needs you. I need you. How bad do you think it would look if your own dad is coaching the team and you are home racing bikes with friends?  Come on, don’t let me down!”
Yet again, another forceful parent pushing their kid to do something to fulfill their own ego.  More than ever we are dealing with a growing number of athletes opting out of sports because of the intense pressure put on them by their parents and the fully stacked weekend schedules, as if they are competing for the Olympics.  When do we draw the line and let kids be kids?   The motto of keeping them busy or keeping them tired is a thing of the past.  Moreover, parents running teams as if they are preparing to compete against the  95-96 Chicago Bulls is rubbish.
It has become a fulltime job for kids
We all know the parents that have taken matters into their own hands to ensure that their little baller gets his/her scholarships.  Often times, putting them on multiple travel teams that require expensive fees and nightly practices after their school practices.  Is this really necessary?  What happened to one practice an evening, finishing up homework at a decent time, and a little playtime?  These days, eight year olds have two full-time jobs, sports, and school. Don’t get me wrong I think there are benefits to being part of travel teams:
1) If athletes are actually being coached instead of scrimmaging all practice.
2) If coaches are instilling in them life long lessons instead of making it about JUST winning.
3) If the local team has an incompetent coach that does not possess leadership or role model qualities.
4) If a local team is not available for that athlete to participate on.  I don’t believe there is a need to travel long distances to develop at young ages.
It has become about parents instead of the athlete
Games have turned into parents trying to coach their son/daughter from the sidelines.  It’s great to encourage and cheer on your young athlete, but, when it turns into coaching them from the sideline, it makes it very difficult for most athletes to be fully engaged in the game because they have two different voices they are tying to listen to – coach and parents.  In addition, games have become a bragging session about where a young athlete has traveled to compete or what travel team the parents want the son/daughter to compete on next year.  “Oh did I just miss my son/daughter make their shot?”   “Yes Mildred, you were busy bragging and showing me your eight year old’s highlight tape for college recruiters…”   “Oh, did you ask your son/daughter about what they want to do?”  The power of letting children make their own, healthy and reasonable, choices is real.
Who’s got biggest muscles?
The number of coaches and dads that have stepped up to the plate to manage a team of energized kids has increased.  This is great; however, many coaches are tying to live vicariously through these young, developing athletes by “stacking” teams with all the talent and crushing every other team in the league.  “ Hey Richard, you got a nice team there!”  “ Yeah, its just like I do it in Madden.”  We get it Richard, your ego has gotten so big that you have forgotten the whole point of a youth development league. We also get that you like to win.  In that case, why don’t you join an adult league instead of using kids to pad your ego?   Coaches,  kids need to understand the fundamentals of the game and how important these are as they continue athletics.  Winning may be fun now, but if a group of kids go through a season of their given sport without learning anything, becoming better people, or having a stronger understanding of the game then you have failed them and their parents big time. Congratulations on your all madden team, Richard…
Where’s the fun?
Some have put such an emphasis on winning that many children think they need to walk away with a win, every game and at all costs.  By no means am I saying winning is bad, but, at developmental ages, if we teach children that the only way he or she is making improvement is by winning, then we have once again failed. Remember the “it’s all about having fun” speech before the games that reminded young athletes to, well, have fun?  It has slowly changed into a pregame speech by an overly aggressive coach that tells the kids to kick the other teams butt.  Hmmm, I question if this is the right thing to teach easily influenced individuals.  This approach places a tremendous amount of pressure on the team to win the game for the coach.
Regardless if you are a coach or a parent, I think we can all agree that in many cases, sports have not given young athletes the ability to have fun.  It has become how many points can be scored and how badly a team can be crushed because you know, the coach told the team to do so.   Maybe its time for many of us to take a new approach and empower young athletes and give them an outlet where they feel they can communicate and be a part of a larger support group.  Screaming and yelling doesn’t do it and the video below shows a handful of situations where the coach is out of line.
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Kendrique Coats is the owner of Coats Performance, which provides speed and agility training in Frisco, Texas and surrounding areas. Over the years, Coats has spent most of his coaching time on the high school level coaching boys and girls track and field as well as overseeing strength and conditioning programs, which included stops at Pontiac Township High School in Illinois and Bloomington-Normal, Illinois. Now the head track and field coach at Dallas International School in Dallas, Texas, Coats looks to bring many of his training and coaching philosophies to the new program. Coats has written several articles including “Why I Stopped Yelling and Started Coachingalong with Early Sports Specialization. For more on Coach Coats and his work, be sure to follow on Twitter @kendriquecoats, Instagram @CoatsPerformance, and his website www.coatsperformance.com. You can also connect with Coach Coats via email at kcoats@coatsperformance.com

A Different Perspective on Retirement

Many people ponder the idea of retirement as something that will bring them more joy than ever before! More time for activities, personal time, and a time to enjoy things that have been forgotten. Sounds like it’s the life, right? Phyllis had all those intention as well as getting her body/muscle working like before, but she had no idea how or where to start.
Growing up moving and enjoying life has always been a goal, but it has been a struggle at the same time. The activities during childhood seemed simple, but they just weren’t the same as she entered the next chapter of her life-retirement. Phyllis Myers struggled and she needed help getting her muscles working like they use to. After having two knee replacements, being limited to certain activities she could do, and also being diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, she realized it was time to do something for herself. Phyllis made the jump by calling to set up an appointment for personal training, which would ultimately change the second chapter of her life forever back in January of this year.
I could see that she was hurting physically and mentally. How she talked about retirement and life was all I needed to know. She looked like an individual that was not enjoying the oh-so-joyful retirement life. Deep down, she knew she had one of two choices: get help or slowly fade into society as many retirees do. During our initial session, she would always mention how she wanted to make the most out of this new chapter in her life as well increasing her energy levels to do more activities throughout the day. In addition, she did not want to depend on others to help her complete basic tasks around the house. Some of these are concerns that many retirees have, but the proper steps aren’t always clear.
Fast forward to now and Phyllis Myers is a complete success story! Exercise has CHANGED HER LIFE and now she wakes up every morning with a purpose. She has a new idea and purpose on how she wants to live the second chapter of life and none of those ideas involve staying in the house because of fears from falling or not being able to move. Phyllis has been such an inspiration to herself that she has inspired others around her! Words cannot explain how proud I am with the changes and sacrifices she has made from the first time she walked through the doors until now. To any retiree that has had these same frustrations on what you’re going to do after retirement, I leave you with this: It is easy to focus all of your time on others or go through life while forgetting about yourself. Being healthy and being able to move is a lifestyle that does not end after childhood, but is life long. No one wants to go outside and have fears of falling because life has slowed down into the retirement years. I encourage everyone to congratulate Phyllis and ask her how her life has changed because of this. Move grove and live life like it is supposed to be lived and that’s without fears or frustration!
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Kendrique Coats is the owner of Coats Performance, which provides speed and agility training in Frisco, Texas and surrounding areas. Over the years, Coats has spent most of his coaching time on the high school level coaching boys and girls track and field as well as overseeing strength and conditioning programs, which included stops at Pontiac Township High School in Illinois and Bloomington-Normal, Illinois. Now the head track and field coach at Dallas International School in Dallas, Texas, Coats looks to bring many of his training and coaching philosophies to the new program. Coats has written several articles including “Why I Stopped Yelling and Started Coaching along with Early Sports Specialization. For more on Coach Coats and his work, be sure to follow on Twitter @kendriquecoats, Instagram @CoatsPerformance, and his website www.coatsperformance.com. You can also connect with Coach Coats via email at kcoats@coatsperformance.com

A Controversial Topic

Many of us have been ruined and many have been fooled to believe the things we see are good.  Example:  The number of women who post selfies speaking about how wonderful their lives are.  The guy that posts an infinite amount of mirror selfies at the gym to show everyone his six pack or how good his “bro pump” was. Although I would not put everyone in this category of insecurity and the need for attention or instant gratification from the same or opposite sex, I call it how I see it. What happened to turning to a close friend or family for the gratification one is seeking, instead of turning to virtual friends that merely see nothing more than a front or, better yet, a ball of insecurity?  Now, before anyone says “who are you to say these things,” as if I’m the greatest thing to walk the earth since Steve Erkle, I was there before.  I have been in the position of seeking out others that really did not care what I was doing with my life.  I was in the position where I thought I always had to have a significant other or people around me to make me feel like I was worthy.  It wasn’t until I looked within myself to find the true answers of being comfortable and not needing gratification for the things I was doing. Looking within myself made me answer the tough reality that I had always dreaded, but it was for the better.  It is amazing how much you can learn about yourself when you take a deeper look within yourself and answer what has been ignored.
Moreover, these times have created a false image of ones’ true self, which is missing as a society. We never seem to meet that genuine individual that understands and wants to learn more about the person he/she may be communicating with. We never have the opportunity to fully trust the people we meet because many have learned to disguise their true self.  Has social media done this to us?  Has the importance of social status placed that on us?  What has caused this mess that makes us feel like we always have to wear a mask to hide our true identity? Many people live life trying to uphold an image and it eventually shows because this is not sustainable.
A couple of nights ago I was scrolling through some social media, during the little down time that I have, and I couldn’t help but notice some of the images that were coming up: young teens dolled up in their makeup taking selfies and others using their platform for, what appeared to me, as attention seeking gratification.   Ayesha Curry, wife of Golden State Warriors phenom Steph Curry, said it perfectly via her social platform, “ Everyone’s into barely wearing clothes these days huh?” This is exactly what I was seeing, young women in less than classy fitting clothes, others asking if they should cut/dye their hair (really? …. I mean REALLY?), some asking for fellow social media users to “rate/like” their picture, some dancing in extremely degrading ways, others taking selfies on their depressive state of minds due to not feeling worthy about their bodies.
To all of those women fighting with similar struggles, I have this to say - you are all beautiful individuals that have so much to offer to this world.  If you are struggling with something, do something for YOURSELF, not lean on people to fix the issues that you are experiencing.  Many of our problems stem from how we see ourselves, but a lot of that comes from not seeing ourselves as worthy because of magazines that photoshop many of these models into what they want them to look like. There was an article I came across about one of the top models in the world and she mentioned how insecure she was because she had to be this perfect image of what a worthy woman should look like.  She also mentioned how she always looks at herself in the mirror as not being the “perfect weight” because of social pressure. This is a great example to find something that is for you and not for others.  Start working out, start eating cleaner, and start thinking of yourselves as worthy because if you don’t, nobody else will do it for you. There is no need for clarification or attention to feel complete.
I remember having a conversation with one student athlete and she was telling me about some of the issues that were going on in her life.  One of the things I told her was, “do not give into the pressure of society because it will kill you and never do things in life for the approval of others, especially NOT a man.  You have to be so independent and positive about yourself that it scares people.  I think some have issues with being alone, but sometimes it’s the best thing that can happen.  Be alone and work on yourself because who you are/what you become is typically what you attract.”  As the conversation came to an end I left her with this, “ DON’T EVER, AND I MEAN EVER, DEPENED ON A MAN TO FEEL WORTHY BECAUSE YOU ARE YOUR OWN PERSON; you need to learn how to be a strong lady because there will come a time in life where you will go through struggles and sometimes you are the only one that can pull yourself out of that.”
These messages are sometimes missed or overlooked because they are tough conversations to have.  Fortunately, I am in a position to spread these words of encouragement because I directly see it.  I have seen women fall into abusive relationships because they do not have the confidence or independence to look at themselves in a much greater lens.  I have seen women reach for attention with makeup and less than classy fitting clothing.  I have seen women struggle with body issues because of the images that are seen in these superficial magazine that only trying to sell and “image,” instead of advice on how we can make women feel more worthy.
I challenge all of you that are in a role model position to have those tough conversations with young men and women because these issues are often swept under the rug.  Give young women the sense of hope and happiness that they may not have ever seen in their lives.  Give young women the confidence they need to never rely on a man to have a fulfilling life.  Give young women motivation to do something for themselves because this is what they need.  We need to start viewing women in a different perspective because times have changed.  Women have the capabilities to do anything a man can do and I think this is intimidating to many and most are not ready for change.
Women, be your own self and stop looking in magazines for your identity because within those pages are nothing but lies and insecurities. Be a woman that has the ability to negotiate your own direction in life. Be able to hold an educational, intelligent conversation instead of talk about how awesome your new superficial purse is or how you learned how to twerk.  All of this wears off, but knowledge is lasting.  Lastly, don’t focus on your looks to get you through life like many do.  Knowledge is power, knowledge is attractive; the more educated and well rounded you become, the more quality you attract!

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